Update

So it’s been a while since I’ve updated my blog and so much has happened! Here is an excerpt that I wrote to our baby after she was born telling her about my pregnancy and her birth:
My pregnancy was fairly mild. I didn’t get morning sickness until I was about 7 weeks along. I had to stop taking my ADHD medication because I couldn’t keep it down. Your dad was very supportive and went with me to most appointments but I was having a hard time with school so I made a last minute appointment to get something for nausea while your dad was home sleeping. I heard your heart beat for the first time that day Wednesday February 5th. It was 170 beats per minute and I knew then you were a girl. I always said I wanted to have a boy first and your dad wanted a boy too. He even bought me a stuffed animal flower that said It’s a Boy for Valentine’s Day! I felt like time stood still waiting for the ultrasound but it was worth the wait. When we saw your little face on that screen and found out that you were healthy and on track I was so happy I wept. The morning sickness was the worst on the weekends and mostly subsided after about 16 weeks. Around 18 weeks or so my back started hurting. I was in school and sat most of the day. I’d have to get up and walk around a lot and after school I would just lay flat for a while and that seemed to help some.We always knew we didn’t want to live in Sheldon forever and your dad started looking for other jobs in March but nothing panned out. I graduated in May and passed my boards in July. Towards the end of that month, my best and only friend Vicki decided to move out of the state. She was the only person we trusted to watch you overnight once I went back to work and I was worried about what we would do if she moved. The very next day your dad got a call for an interview at DuPont in Nevada. It was perfect and we were cautiously elated. We would finally be closer to our family! Your dad was especially worried that the job wouldn’t pay enough to make it worth it for us to move and he was concerned about us moving so close to your arrival time. He went through with the interview process and on August 28th we found out we were moving. They wanted him to start September 15 – barely enough time to give a two-week notice. He was concerned about leaving on a good note and being able to qualify to get his PTO paid out. We had an appointment with Dr. Zoelle to induce Monday the 8th but AGP called and asked him to cover and offered to give him Wednesday off instead. We asked Zoelle if we could induce Wednesday instead but she was going to be out of town after noon so we made the appointment for Tuesday morning instead. Your dad worked a 12-hour shift the night before but he came and was right there by my side through everything. They gave me the first dose of cytotec at 8 am and I started contracting but not very consistently or strongly. They gave the second dose at noon and then the contractions got stronger and more consistent. Your dad walked with me, held my hand, massaged my back, snuggled with me and did everything he could to support me and help ease the pain. We napped here and there through the day and at around 4 pm they broke my water. It was the nastiest feeling I’d ever had! It was like peeing my pants and then sitting having to sit in it. I sat in the tub for a bit but I didn’t want my contractions to stop and it started to get too hot so I got out and walked. Later, your dad went to the house to shower and check on the dogs and since he wasn’t there to help me through the pain I decided to sit in the tub again. When they checked me at around 8, I hadn’t progressed much more and my contractions were becoming less consistent so they decided to insert a pressure catheter to measure the strength of my contractions. They weren’t effective enough and they had to give me Pitocin (a drug to make the contractions stronger). Your dad was right there by my side helping me through the pain and reminding me to breathe. I made it to a 6 before I finally begged for an epidural. The pain was so bad I could hardly breathe and there was nothing we could do to make it better. I was given an epidural at around 4 am and it helped for a while but then it started to wear off. At around 6 they gave me Lidocaine and it helped for a while but then that started to wear off too. I made it to a 10 but I wasn’t feeling the urge to push so they just kept letting me have contractions. You had been a champ this whole time, tolerating the contractions so well but then you started having variable decelerations. Your heartbeat would drop with contractions but then it would bounce right back up so they weren’t too concerned. Finally they let me try pushing at about 1030 and you were born at 1042. Your eyes were open but you were a bluish purple color and you didn’t cry. They took you to the warmer next to the bed to dry you off and I wasn’t too worried until I saw they were doing CPR. Then all of a sudden there were 20 people in the room and we didn’t know what was going on and we were scared. They put in an intubation tube to help you breathe and
an OG tube to pull fluid off your abdomen. The umbilical cord was wrapped around your chest and your lung collapsed. When they finally got the ET tube in place you started chewing/sucking on it so they took it out. The fluid they took off helped your lung re-inflate and you started breathing and coming around. You were trying to suck on anything you could get your little mouth on. Because you had such a rough start, they had to transfer you to the NICU in Sioux Falls so I wasn’t allowed to breast feed you. Your dad and I were so scared while all of this was going on and I was sobbing like a lunatic. Your dad kept trying to calm me down but when I heard they were going to life flight you I was scared they would take you away before I’d even get to hold and kiss you. Luckily, they were sympathetic to my plight and I got to hold you once you were stabilized. Your dad got to be right by the warmer watching over you and you latched onto his finger and wouldn’t let go. I was so happy when they put you in my arms and gave you lots of kisses but then the flight crew got there and I had to give you back to them so they could take your vitals and check you over. They let me hold you again before they left and your dad and I were so worried about you. We felt so empty and discouraged after you left and I made it my mission to get discharged as soon as possible so we could be with you. Grandma Jan and Grandpa Larry took Vicki up to be with you in the meantime so you wouldn’t be alone. We cried together once everyone had left. It was so hard on us seeing them bond with you before we could but we were glad you weren’t alone. I got discharged that night at 9, we ran home quick to grab clothes and stuff and we rushed up to Sioux Falls as fast as we could. 

Those first few months were awful. We were living in the loft of my grandma’s house so I couldn’t really have visitors – there wasn’t really room for them or a place for them to sit and it wasn’t my house to invite them to. Jesse was working so everything fell on my shoulders – all the feeding and day to day care and getting up in the middle of the night, cooking, cleaning – all me. And we didn’t exactly have our own space and grandma was a bit of a hoarder so that made what was hard even harder. We did a lot of visiting because I hated being stuck in the house all day with nothing much to do and limited space. We bought an acreage in November but it was March before we were able to move in and it needed a lot of work even after that. We lost a whole box of kitchen stuff in the move including silverware and pots and pans and it took months before Jesse would let me replace them because he was certain we’d find them eventually. Going to church was pretty rough for a while too. I didn’t know anyone and I couldn’t have company over to get to know people and I didn’t have help or anyone to sit with. There were no speakers in the Mother’s Lounge so I hated having to leave to breastfeed or change diapers. Moving was supposed to be this great thing and it was hard and lonely for a long time. Thank goodness my mom was pretty close and we’d go to visit her pretty frequently. Plus Evelyn has been able to play with Arika and Hunter pretty often. It was a rough start but we made it. Jesse’s job has been a headache from the get-go. They started out working Monday through Friday 730-4 so he would leave at around 6/630 and get home around 5. Then they changed his scheduled to a rotating schedule similar to what he worked at AGP, but they didn’t have to work nights. It was just 6a-6p. Then they started working nights 6-6. It wasn’t so bad at first. Then they went to this awful rotating schedule. He works 4 nights, 3 off, 3 days, 1 off, 3 nights, 3 off, 4 days, and 1 week off. A week off sounds great, right? Except that they basically work 3 weeks straight before that week and any time there is any kind of training they have to come in on their week off for it. He’s applied for a team lead 3 times now and has been turned down each time for various reasons. The first time, the other guy had seniority, the 2nd they completely brought in someone from the outside with no prior experience (turned out his wife and the boss’s wife were good friends) and the 3rd time the other person was just more well liked by the other supervisors. That has been really hard on him. He works so hard, he never calls in, he’s always there on time, comes in to help on his days off, and he knows more about the plant and how it should run than probably anyone else there and they just walk all over him but he hasn’t been able to find anything else.

I worked at the hospital in Marshalltown for about a month around the time that Evelyn was about 6 months old, but I hated it. I worked all day when Jesse could be home with Evelyn so then he was super frustrated because he couldn’t do any work on the house. I hated being away from Evelyn all day and I did not like the environment. I didn’t like the way they do things, I didn’t like their charting system, and I didn’t like the way they communicated (or rather didn’t communicate) with each other. After about a month, I went to my boss and told him all of my concerns and told him I didn’t know if it was the right time for me to be going back to work…Anyway, we mutually decided that I didn’t belong there and he said he wouldn’t flag me as a do not re-hire but I don’t think that’s the case. Not very long after I got hired at Grandview Heights and I really really liked it. I liked the people; I liked what I was doing. And after Jesse’s schedule changed I switched to PRN. It was awesome. Then they got a new schedule person and it wasn’t quite so awesome anymore. I got a job at the women’s prison in Mitchellville, but I wasn’t there very long either. That was definitely not for me. Then I got a job as an occupational health nurse at the Power Plant in Marshalltown and I loved it. I made great money. I liked the people I met. The hours were pretty great at first and even when there was drama I was happy to be there doing what I was doing. Then I started having to fight for hours and there was more drama and stress. Jesse and I had talked about having another baby but he wanted to wait until Evelyn was at least two. One day at the end of August we decided not to wait that long and started not trying not to have another. Three weeks later they had a big audit at the plant to see if it was ready to start up and the result was that it wouldn’t be ready for at least another year. Jesse was worried about whether or not he was going to have a job much longer and suggested that maybe we put off trying for another. I went and bought a pregnancy test that night and the result was so faint I thought I was losing my mind. I was freaking out because I really couldn’t tell if it was there or not and I asked Julie Vicki and Trisha what they thought. Julie suggested that I wait a couple days. Jesse looked at it and asked if it was the one I had just taken. “So you’re not pregnant?” he asked. I told him to look closer but he didn’t believe me. I took another the next morning and it was darker but still super faint. Then I decided to be smart and just take a yes or no test. Ready or not we’re pregnant! My due date was May 27th! We told our families at Evelyn’s birthday party two days later. My dad and Melynda came to town for it and it was so nice to see them and be able to show them around!! This pregnancy has been so different from the last. First, I was exhausted all the time – most likely because I was working mostly nights and having to be up all night and then try to function during the day was so hard. Then morning sickness hit right around 6 weeks and I was miserable. I threw up every day. I lost 5 pounds. There were times when I had to call for help putting laundry away or taking care of Evelyn because I couldn’t move or I’d be sick. Being in the Relief Society presidency felt like so much more work but every time I prayed about it, I felt like it was where I was supposed to be even if I also felt like I wasn’t contributing enough. Road trips were particularly difficult. I made it to the temple in October right before the morning sickness started and wasn’t able to go again the rest of the year. October 7th Mom Evelyn and I went up to Spencer for Anna’s baby Abendego’s baby blessing. I was so sick Sunday morning I could barely move off the couch and eventually threw up. Two weeks later we drove to Illinois for Eleanor’s baptism and the drive was just miserable. We had to stop about every hour. If I had to pee, I’d get sick. If I was tired, I’d get sick. If I had gas, I’d get sick.Everything made me nauseous. I threw up 3 times on Sunday. I finally went to the doctor to get something to help and she prescribed Diclegis. It made a huge difference but I was still nauseous and barfing up until about 20 weeks. I was hoping to convince my doctor to let me do my ultrasound a little bit early so we could tell our families at Christmas but I was unsuccessful. I’d heard about a place in Altoona that does ultrasounds without needing a doctor’s note but you have to pay out of pocket. It was $89 plus tax but I didn’t care. It was worth it to me. Jesse took a lot more convincing but eventually gave in. We had a really hard time getting baby to cooperate and Jesse had limited time before he had to be at work. The first picture I saw looked like boy parts but the umbilical cord was between its legs so she didn’t want to say for sure. We tried everything but then baby clenched up its legs and wouldn’t budge. Jesse ended up having to leave for work before we found out for sure. Just as we were about to give up, I got up to pee again and when I came back, baby’s legs were wide open and there was no denying it was a BOY!!!! I was over the moon ecstatic! We were going to do a gender reveal party but the weather was going to be nasty and I couldn’t wait to tell people so we ended up just doing a short video. Then we couldn’t decide on a name! We looked and looked and looked at baby books and discussed so many different names. It took weeks before we finally settle on Ian as a first name (and I still wasn’t super excited about it). Then we had a hard time coming up with a middle name. We had talked about Douglas after Jesse’s grandpa but on of the other cousins were already named after him via middle name. In talking with Grandpa Donald, no one was named after his side of the family and thus we decided on Henry for a middle name. The job at the power plant really started to weigh on me – the long hours and half the time I’d go the whole night without seeing a single person. There was no consistency in the schedule and the next month’s schedule wouldn’t get posted until days before the month ended so I couldn’t plan ahead and they were becoming more and more unpredictable. We got an email in mid-December stating that night shift would be eliminated at the beginning of January and the next week we got an email stating that it was being extended until the end of January/early February. I started looking other places but wasn’t really finding a lot. Just before Christmas, I got a phone call out of the blue from the administrator for the Green Mountain Garwin School District. They were looking for a new school nurse and they had heard from someone that I might be interested. I was so excited. It was my dream job!! They wanted me to interview on the 28th. I told them I worked the night before but we arranged to have the interview in the afternoon so I would have time to sleep. That night at work I was sicker than I had been in a long time. Nothing helped and I could barely move without feeling nauseous. I thought maybe I just had to pee but when I got to the door of the bathroom I decided to sit back down again. Minutes later I was throwing up in the garbage can and because I didn’t go to the bathroom I peed my pants. This happened 2 more times. It was late and Jesse and Evelyn were both sleeping and I had the car seat so there was no way for Jesse to bring me clean clothes. I just had to deal. I went home and went straight to bed and when I got up my face was so splotchy and sickly looking. I looked like crap! Normally when I put on make up, I just stick to eyeliner and mascara but under the circumstances I decided to go all out. I felt like the interview went well and I wanted to quit so badly but until I knew for sure, I didn’t want to jump the gun. I had an interview with the long term care facility in State Center and I had heard good things about it but they wanted someone to work nights and I was trying to get away from night shift, not to mention, I really didn’t want to go back to working in Long Term Care. I applied for a position at the Assisted Living facility in town but they wanted someone who could work 1 pm till 8 pm Monday through Friday plus be on call 24/7 every other week. I applied for a position with MICA and it sounded promising but when they go around to different clinics, they ride together in one big van so if there was a family emergency or if Evelyn was sick or anything I’d be stuck until the clinic was finished. I found out the following Monday that I got the position at GMG and I would be starting the 16th. Not quite a two-week notice but notice was given nonetheless. I was so happy!!!! The hours were super flexible and school got out May 25th – just before my due date! 

There are days when I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and others where I have enough to do to keep me busy but the people are so nice and the environment is wonderful – so different from anywhere else I’ve ever worked. I do a lot of sitting so my back hurts so badly by the end of the day but it’s totally worth it. Evelyn has had a really hard time adjusting to being in daycare regularly. She’s more demanding and bossy and possessive. She acts out more. She’s regressed in potty training and she’s been sick a lot more. I’m hoping with time she will be better but Jesse is so worried about her. We just don’t know what to do. I just started this job and I really like it. Not only do I love what I’m doing and the hours but also this particular district is so flexible and the people are nice. Hopefully it will sort itself out with time. I’m a little worried about what happens after Ian is born. What if I’m not ready to go back? What if I need more time with my babies? Especially if Ian is our last (which Jesse is pretty settled that he will be) I want to soak up every minute. I guess I will cross that road when I get to it. In the mean time I’m just trying to be happy an optimistic as much as possible. I really want to be the kind of person that other people want to be around. I want to be a good influence. 

My calling in the presidency has become easier in most ways. It’s hard to have Evelyn with me and try to concentrate (especially since she’s so much more demanding lately!) but I’ve felt so much more needed and I’ve been able to give some good insight the last few meetings and really feel like I’m making a good contribution. 

Jesse applied for a position at the Power Plant in Ames but he didn't get it. I just want him to have a job where he can be happy and appreciated. Hopefully we will be able to find something else before Ian is born (preferably not right before or right after this time around). 

We are tentatively planning to do his baby blessing July 30th. It feels a little funny planning a blessing for a baby that hasn’t been born yet but with having family that lives pretty far away, I wanted to plan ahead as much as possible. I’m even hoping that we can fly Grandma Veda out for it! I want her to meet Evelyn so badly! I know she will love her so much and she’s her namesake so that would mean a lot to me too. I think that’s all I have to report for now (I know it’s a lot but it’s been a long time!) Thanks for reading!